Have you ever heard the expression "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? It's often used to refer to physical appearance, but maybe that's not the only way to understand it.
We live in a negative, critical and perfectionist culture – from the time we are babies we are alerted to the ways in which we don't measure up, or are not good enough. We learn to focus on our weaknesses and faults, on our mistakes and imperfections, and we disregard our strengths, talents and successes. Have you ever felt like this? Have you found it difficult to accept and own the compliments people give you, but immediately take to heart any criticisms (even if they're just hinted at)? It's like looking at ourselves through a lens that focuses on the negative - and what we see is never good enough. Feeling good about ourselves – liking who we are - when looking through this lens is almost impossible
What if we chose to take off those glasses, and put on a different pair – one that focuses on the positive? What would we look like then? Focusing on the ways in which we are good enough – owning and celebrating our strengths, abilities, talents and successes – would give us a very different perspective of ourselves and the world. When we make the choice to look at ourselves through this lens, we begin to feel love and compassion towards our own being. We are able to show ourselves the tenderness and care we usually reserve for others. We treat ourselves as equally important, and know that we matter. There's a sense of coming home, of feeling good in our own skin, and we finally see our own beauty.
By exploring our self-esteem, we begin to understand how to see ourselves differently, and how to feel better about who we are. For more information on self-esteem, please contact one of the Self-Esteem Facilitators listed on this website.
Feeling unhappy and dissatisfied with our physical appearance is a symptom of a society shaped by external influences, such as the media, as well as the opinion of those we surround ourselves with. These influences create harmful feelings and cause us to internalize negative messages that disrupt our ability to feel attractive, comfortable in our skin and physically able to meet life's challenges.
You can learn to address these messages and feelings by improving your level of self-esteem through professional self-esteem facilitation. During this process, you will explore your unique experiences and messages and develop practical tools that will assist you in re-creating and fostering a healthy relationship with your body. You have the power to shape the course of this important relationship and we are here to help guide you along this journey. Contact one of our professional facilitators now for more information.
Do you find yourself unable to cope with the 'things' that life throws at you? Do you often feel unable to cope?
You can learn to handle the complexities that life offers by improving your self-esteem. Self-esteem is confidence in our ability to think, confidence in our ability to cope with the basic challenges of life, and confidence in our right to be successful and happy. By working with a self-esteem facilitator you will develop practical tools to help you improve your self-esteem and guide you towards a more fulfilling life. Contact one of our professional facilitators now for more information.
Do you find yourself saying things to yourself like;
- 'I'm so stupid'
- I'm fat
- I'm going to be alone forever
- No-one likes me
The 'voice in our head' also known as self-talk is often a very destructive force in our lives and can lead to a deep feeling of inadequacy. You can learn to address these messages, replacing them with positive self-affirming talk thereby improving your self-esteem. Self-esteem is confidence in our ability to think, confidence in our ability to cope with the basic challenges of life, and confidence in our right to be successful and happy. By working with a self-esteem facilitator you will develop practical tools to help you improve your self-esteem and guide you towards a more fulfilling life. Contact one of our professional facilitators now for more information.
No and in reading the poem below by Charlie Chaplin leads us to believe that many people have been aware of the benefits of living with healthy self esteem for a long time. Enjoy the poem!
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is "AUTHENTICITY".
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody. As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it "RESPECT".
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it "MATURITY".
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it "SELF-CONFIDENCE".
As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it "SIMPLICITY".
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is "LOVE OF ONESELF".
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is "MODESTY".
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it "FULFILLMENT".
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call thisconnection "WISDOM OF THE HEART".
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.Today I know THAT IS "LIFE"
It is 6 o' clock on a Monday morning. A frozen vista of brown and gold greets my wakening eyes as I shiver my way down through the training field toward my studio. Frosting pockets of breath accompanies each step and I am grateful for the short distance to the studio's entrance. Upon reaching the doors, I stop and fumble into my pocket to press a blue remote. To the sound of pulleys moaning and groaning, I watch the doors roll upward. A sheen of winter sun creeps past me and stretches its long warm fingers across the carpeted floor in front of me. I smile. It is cold, but it is pleasant and I am looking forward to the morning's sessions. I stride in and begin the morning rituals; lights... click, music... switch. I bob my head to a rocking remix of U2's 'Where the Streets Have No Name' as I setup the studio floor and prepare the weights for the day's first session.
Suddenly, Diiiinng Diiiinng, the bell rings. Ah, my client is here. I move to the intercom and answer. "Pizza delivery..." a woman on the other end says. I suppress a chuckle and place the receiver down, opening the sliding gate. Rubbing my icy hands against each other, I walk toward my client as she roars up the driveway. A car door opens. "What, no pizza?!" I say, with a faux flummox of a smile. She grins back as she closes the door, "All out I'm afraid... besides, I don't think Trainers are supposed to be eating pizza on a Monday morning." I dramatically clasp my chest, "Aah, how you wound me, Katherine." We both break into laughter as we enter the studio together.
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Have you ever been asked the question "Who are you?", or even "Who do you think you are?".... How would you answer? Do you know? When we build self-esteem – our opinion of ourselves – we need to know not only who we are, but also make the decision to like that person. I came across this article, which gives interesting insights into answering the question "Who am I?". for more information on building your self-esteem, and confidently, comfortably answering the question of who you are, contact one of the Self-Esteem Facilitators listed on this site. The full article can be read here.
Setting boundaries, with yourself and others, is a vital step in improving and maintaining our self-esteem because it offers us a framework through which we can identify what we feel comfortable with and what we don't. It offers us the ability to choose and their is great freedom in choice. In this article there were some clear and easy tips on how we can enhance our self-esteem which, you will identify, is a life-long journey and one well worth going on.