Have you ever heard the expression "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? It's often used to refer to physical appearance, but maybe that's not the only way to understand it.
We live in a negative, critical and perfectionist culture – from the time we are babies we are alerted to the ways in which we don't measure up, or are not good enough. We learn to focus on our weaknesses and faults, on our mistakes and imperfections, and we disregard our strengths, talents and successes. Have you ever felt like this? Have you found it difficult to accept and own the compliments people give you, but immediately take to heart any criticisms (even if they're just hinted at)? It's like looking at ourselves through a lens that focuses on the negative - and what we see is never good enough. Feeling good about ourselves – liking who we are - when looking through this lens is almost impossible
What if we chose to take off those glasses, and put on a different pair – one that focuses on the positive? What would we look like then? Focusing on the ways in which we are good enough – owning and celebrating our strengths, abilities, talents and successes – would give us a very different perspective of ourselves and the world. When we make the choice to look at ourselves through this lens, we begin to feel love and compassion towards our own being. We are able to show ourselves the tenderness and care we usually reserve for others. We treat ourselves as equally important, and know that we matter. There's a sense of coming home, of feeling good in our own skin, and we finally see our own beauty.
By exploring our self-esteem, we begin to understand how to see ourselves differently, and how to feel better about who we are. For more information on self-esteem, please contact one of the Self-Esteem Facilitators listed on this website.